Often while going through some really old snaps,I am left terribly embarrassed.First thought that comes to my mind.."What the hell was I thinking, what's with that gawky smile, those bushy undone eyebrows,those square shoulder padded ,puff sleeved dresses!" Din't I have any fashion sense!

And then sometimes I wonder," What if ,what I wore, or the way I was, was really the way to be at that time. Even if it seems atrocious now, what if, at that time it all made perfect sense."

I am tempted to draw analogies with decisions one makes in life.Often there are times when I am frustrated over the fact that somoeone's " not getting" my point.I wince ,and wonder why the person cannot see that what he or she is doing is so obviously wrong.What's clogging this person's rationale!

The truth is that not many people take wrong decisions knowing that they are wrong.They take them because for that moment ,under those circumstances ,making that decision makes sense to them, seems right to them.Be it the terrible relations that they do not give up on,habits like smoking that they don't kick, negative attitude's that they seem to harbour..all of these register and make sense to the individual at some level.

When the years have rolled by the same person looks back and is left aghast at the decisions he or she once made.One wonders" What the hell was I thinking".When faced with a very bad day, I often try this. To think of the situation in third person and wonder how I will feel about this day, 5 years from now. The burden is reduced by half the moment I do this.

5 years from now, I might wince at this terribly philosphical blog, but hey, right now it is making a lot of sense to write this.

Often I have met the rebel.Those who defy rules,live life on their terms.Touting that it

takes courage to live that way.Does it?I have often thought quite the

opposite.Living life on terms others laid for you,in my opinion is far more courageous.

To agree to live by social norms is courageous.Growing up it takes courage to stay course,to believe that the at the end of unglamourous well trodden path,their dreams are waiting for them.

As an adult it takes character and courage to commit to your life partner. Does infidelity need courage?

It takes courage to remain honest at the job when the "rebels" all around are making a quick buck by dishonest means.

It takes courage to have kids and be their caretaker, when the way out is so easy.

Simple boring things, courgeous?